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:::I think you entirely missed the point of my advice: the more you obsess about this, the worse it is for you -- that is, if you're actually interested in having a Wikipedia career. If you take my advice, you have a pretty good chance of putting this incident behind you. If you continue to post as above, you'll be indef blocked before the year is out, and probably sooner. The choice is yours. This concludes my portion of the program. [[User:Beyond My Ken|Beyond My Ken]] ([[User talk:Beyond My Ken|talk]]) 03:47, 7 June 2020 (UTC)

I seem to have a bit of a habit of replying late, so here is my response to your pinging of me on ANI.

This is part of the problem of text based communication, tone is not communicable. My quoting of the various diffs that were presented in the ANI, and my view of them, is precisely what multiple editors have agreed on. You will invariably have a different opinion on what you're presenting to everyone else. Communication on wikipedia is absolutely one of those "put yourselves in the other person's shoes" environments where one must constantly ask themselves whether their message can be misconstrued as an attack or whether it comes across as overly aggressive. Some editors will not care for that, and they get blocked. And you can see that this is precisely what has resulted. Any number of uninvolved editors have shown up on the discussion and literally every editor that has reviewed your talk page edits has agreed that they present as aggressive and combative. I have no dog in the fight since any time I expend on wikipedia, which has been precious little lately for various real life reasons, it's time that I freely give. I can understand that when you see an article that you spent a great deal of time on get rejected or sent off toe AFD and deleted, it's quite upsetting and annoying even. But this is how Wikipedia works and it's something that every editor who has spent any length of time here comes to accept. [[User:Blackmane|Blackmane]] ([[User talk:Blackmane|talk]]) 04:55, 7 June 2020 (UTC)